A Moment of Grace

For many of us, in this new space and time, our responsibilities have remained the same or increased significantly. It matters not if you are single, a caregiver, a spouse, or an employee, we are expected to show up as active participants in this alternate universe we were teleported to less than a month ago….

Cherish the Day

“What if I want to go to Africa?” That was my response to the surprise wedding proposal and the “cold feet” I was experiencing. It was 1998 and I wouldn’t put my feet on African soil until 2018. All I knew, was that I felt my freedom slipping away with every mention of the wedding….

Messages and Mantras

“I am my most important thing.” A number of not-so-pleasant experiences led me to truly believe and live this truth. As I navigated my life after separation, I would find myself repeating those words, under my breath, to get through the moment. Murmuring this mantra was contrary to the messages that were a part of…

My Bag

I had left my husband, but I wasn’t gone. I was being held hostage by the choices before me -take cover in an unhappy marriage or become a single mother again. I wasn’t brave enough to choose the thing that would set me free. Where I’m from, one of the worse things you could be…


So you want to remain friends with your “mistress” (I guess that’s what she was even though we didn’t make enough money for that title) and spend Thanksgiving as a family. I kept replaying this riddle in my head.  Why was I still entertaining this foolishness? This was, in fact, fuckery on another level. He…